Private mentorship with Lena gives you personalized support to handle even the most nuanced, annoying, how did we even get here conversations with family, friends, your boss, your partner, and even your doctor. It’s a transformative experience to make sure that you say what you need without guilt, and focus on what matters instead of managing everyone else’s fears, emotions, and desires.
Private Support for the Conversations That Matter Most.
You Know It's Time When...
- Your parents still expect you to listen to their opinions and wishes like when you were a child, and you just go quiet or play along.
- Relatives keep questioning your choices about your career, marriage, and how you parent, and you're uncomfortable telling them to back off.
- You dread having parents or your partner’s family visit because of the constant questions, pressure, and unsolicited advice.
In Family Dynamics:
- You’re scared of all the criticism and unsolicited advice that keeps flooding your life.
- You have a vision of the mother you want to be, but family expectations and opinions keep clouding and working against that vision.
- You’re worried about advocating for yourself or your children with your medical team, mom, mother-in-law, or even with your partner, to ensure you have the support you need.
In motherhood:
- You and your partner aren’t on the same page about money, family involvement, or how to handle pushy relatives.
- Your partner doesn’t fully understand what kind of support you need when their family crosses your boundaries.
- You’re worried about how a big change, like a baby or a new job, will change your relationship dynamic.
In your Partnership:
- You say yes to the extra ask again, then resent it all weekend.
- You have a request for a raise, a plan to get more credit for your hard work, or a “no” you keep rehearsing in the shower and never say out loud.
- You want to lead with confidence, but you hesitate with speaking up, delegating work, or giving constructive feedback as needed.
At work:
If any of these made you take a deep breath and think “yeah...” that’s your sign that Private Mentorship is right for you now.
We'll make sure your new boundaries and communication skills become your default way of operating. You'll embody this new version of yourself so completely that the people around you naturally adjust without ongoing conflict or drama.
Personal Sovereignty
We’ll map out exactly which people and topics trigger your people pleasing responses and create specific strategies and skills you need to stay calm, centered, and clear when you advocate for you, your partner, and your family.
Relationship Recalibration
We unpack the generational guilt trips and cultural expectations that make you feel like the bad guy for having boundaries and let go of the old programming that keeps you second-guessing yourself.
Pattern Disruption
Relationships on Your Terms. Period.
Your power and leadership qualities aren’t meant to be compartmentalized. It’s time to claim the life and relationships you want.
Big changes like getting married, a new job, moving, pregnancy and postpartum, are some of the most transformational seasons of your life. They don’t have to be the most boundary violating. You can grow into who you’re becoming without feeling swept into an ocean of opinions, fears, and expectations.
Before coaching with Lena I was feeling very run down... I had been suffering from a lot of self-doubt and worries about my choices and judgement. This made me almost paralyzed and overly fearful.
Lena has a high and adaptive intelligence, a big heart and real integrity. These combine to make coaching not just emotionally safe but quickly productive. Due to Lena's help and positive mirroring, I feel back in touch with my personal power and ready to keep taking on challenges.
My confidence has gone from 30% to about 80% in only a month, which feels more significant than it even sounds!
Leela
"My confidence has gone from 30% to 80%"
What Private Mentorship Gives You
This is where we do the deepest work. You bring the conversation you've been avoiding, the situation that blew up, or the boundary you can't figure out how to hold without guilt. We process your feelings and repattern your beliefs. You leave with a plan and the exact words to execute it.
✓ Direct Private WhatsApp Text and Voice Messaging
Text or voice note me the moment something happens. Your mom makes a comment that’s out of bounds? Your boss sends a “quick call?” at 5pm on a Friday? Your MIL books a flight to visit before you’re ready? You'll never have to navigate a hard conversation, an overstepping boss, friend, or family member, or a moment of self doubt alone.
✓ Personalized Boundary Strategies and Mentorship
We build a plan around the specific conflicts and relationships you're navigating. From parents who think "boundaries" are a silly Millennial concept, to a boss who treats your yes as a given, to in laws from another culture who expect you to follow their traditions or their idea your family role, to a doctor who isn’t listening.
✓ The Kind Boundaries™ Course
The simple step-by-step framework for saying the hard things, the uncomfortable things, the things people don't want to hear, in a way that actually makes your relationships better. For you AND for the people you love.
Starting at $1,250/month, based on your level of support.
Not ready for monthly mentorship? Start with one week of private WhatsApp support for $297. Apply here →
Hard Conversations that Paid Off Big!
- Told her aunt she won't be giving her more money but will support her in other ways, and it worked. No money requests since, after YEARS of regularly being expected to give her money (with no promise of returning it).
- Finally opted out of the expected annual family reunion after years of showing up only to feel put down and humiliated.
In Family Dynamics:
- Finally got her mom to stop bringing the kids donuts every weekend, after MONTHS of begging her mom to stop giving her kids so much sugar.
- Told her mother-in-law that postpartum is the wrong time to comment on the state of her home or try to "help her" by initiating big projects around the house.
In motherhood:
- Got her boyfriend to pay his full share of the rent, after YEARS of last minute “here’s what I can do” and covering the rest herself.
- After he asked her to "just close her business for now", she got her husband to help pay for child care and an assistant, so she could keep her business successful and get to be a hands-on mom.
In Partnership:
- Asked to be paid her worth and got a 25% raise after 4 YEARS without a single raise.
- Started getting credit for her ideas (instead of her boss taking it) and got herself a promotion.
- Negotiated on a job offer and wound up hired at a level higher, a higher base salary, and a bigger sign-on bonus.
At work:
Every one of them started off nervous, unsure of what to say, and worried about how the other person would react. AND IT STILL PAID OFF.
"Lena, I want to thank you from the absolute depth of my soul for teaching me how to communicate better with myself, with other people, how to approach things that matter to me, how to have conversations that are hard."
"I learned so much from Lena! I'm all about making people feel seen, and I felt like setting boundaries would be hurting the people I love but Lena helped me realize it's actually empowering them."
"If you are looking for someone who can help you navigate the uncomfortable conversations and situations in your relationships, Lena is your go-to."
Danielle
DEVON
Destiny
"I Wouldn't Have Been Able to See That"
If we're a good fit, I'll send a payment link and scheduling link. Your first session is on video. After that, calls are audio unless we use video for a specific exercise.
What happens after I submit my application?
I get this question a lot, and some people don't change, but most people do. Especially family might be surprised or resistant. We'll adjust our strategy accordingly.
What if the other person doesn't change?
Coaching and mentorship isn't therapy, and I don't diagnose or treat mental health conditions. We work together on your mindset and taking effective action.
Is this Like therapy? How is it different?
Like most things in life, there is no guarantee, but there are signs something will work. If you're someone who likes to learn and grow, that's a good sign.
How do I know it will work for me?
frequently asked questions
I gained a way to defuse a situation without having it to be a huge conflict. Our relationship is better because of it now.
And I was not able to do that before.
It's so nice to not have things blow up and to defuse conflict in a way that allows me to stay close to our family.
"I was not able to do that before"
Kristine
CEO and mom of two
Growing up, I was a chronic people pleaser. I thought I’d fixed it once I learned to speak up at work. I had the awards, the titles, and through local government and nonprofit work, I helped shape policy and programs helping millions of people.
But I was still biting my tongue when my family, my husband’s family (with cultural expectations completely unfamiliar to me), and even friends made comments that made my stomach flip.
I had two versions of myself: the confident leader everyone respected professionally, and the woman who avoided conflict in her most important relationships (and was slowly building mountains of resentment because of it).
I also knew that once we started growing our family, every tiny boundary avoidance would become a huge problem. So, I worked on being more clear about my wants, and in that process I developed the Kind Boundaries™ framework.
Most of us learned two ways to handle hard relationships: give in or pull away. I teach a third way: say what you need, kindly and clearly, and stay close to the people who matter.
In case we haven't met yet....
Hi, I'm Lena.
Before coaching with Lena, I was over-extended; giving everything I had to everyone but me.
Lena saw me for the giver that I am and encouraged me to evaluate where my ‘yes’es and my ‘no’s are. She had me acknowledge responsibilities I’m happy to take on for others vs. the ones I am not happy to take on. It was a tangible approach for something that often doesn’t feel tangible.
In a short period of time, I saw myself choosing me. I started putting myself out there confidently and standing up for myself in ways I never had before.
Lena’s coaching is powerful— if you want to see yourself standing by decisions, creating boundaries, and strengthening healthy relationships you will not be disappointed.
Roxi
"Lena's coaching is powerful"
Ready to feel heard and respected?
Private mentorship gives you the dedicated support to set even the most nuanced, vulnerable, and unconventional boundaries you need, in a way that actually sticks, and without drama.
You're choosing support now so the hard conversations get easier. Fewer blowups with your mom or your MIL. Less resentment toward your partner. Less dread before the conversation with your team. And way less unsolicited advice drowning out your own voice.
Big seasons of life can be the most transformational ones. They don't have to be the most boundary violating ones.
Apply now to become heard and respected.
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