When my husband and I started talking about having kids, I was scared shitless - not about pregnancy or even about giving birth, but about managing relentless unsolicited advice...
I knew once you're pregnant and dealing with those hormones (or worse, when you’re postpartum dealing with a hormone dip and brutal sleep deficit) it gets harder to set boundaries.
So, before we even started trying to conceive, I got to work...
Meet Lena Athena
I help women around the world create more space to trust their instincts as mothers and enjoy their motherhood experience on their terms.
You're the mom. Period.
Congressionally Recognized Leader
TEDx
SPEAKER
Silicon Valley 2020 Woman of Influence
How It Started
Growing up, I was a chronic people-pleaser. I thought I'd "fixed it" once I learned to speak up at work and I had the awards, the titles, and more political influence than most people twice my age.
But I was still biting my tongue when my family, my husband's family (who had cultural expectations completely unfamiliar to me), and even friends made comments that made my skin crawl.
I had two versions of myself: the confident leader everyone respected professionally, and the woman who avoided conflict in her most important relationships.
And I knew once we started a family, every tiny boundary avoidance was going to become a huge problem.
When you're pregnant, everyone suddenly becomes an expert on YOUR body, YOUR choices, YOUR timeline. In-laws act like your baby is "their grandchild" to influence. Parents
question your decisions. And if you're in an intercultural relationship? The opinions multiply.
The problem is that wen you avoid difficult and uncomfortable conversations, you accidentally train people to treat you like your authority and boundaries are optional. But when you set boundaries that build deeper intimacy into your relationships, you become
the mother who leads by example.
That's why I developed the exact framework that helps women go from dreading these conversations to handling them with confidence. So you can focus on your intuition and aspirations as a mom, instead of wasting that precious and limited energy managing anyone else's feelings and expectations around your motherhood journey.
and No amount of "loving each other" can make you feel safe or seen if you play small in your most important relationships
Turns out avoiding conflict isn't keeping the peace... It's killing it.
How It's Going
Today, I help first-time moms, pregnant and postpartum, navigate family pressure so they can focus on what actually matters: bonding with their baby, recovering from birth, and making choices that feel right for them.
Over the years, I've helped hundreds of women transform their challenging relationships into sources of support. Even relationships they feared were hopeless and would never change.
Too many women are scared to lean into the tensions and pressures of motherhood, but my clients aren't - because they know they can do it on THEIR terms.
Some of Our Transformations:
"I learned so much from Lena!
I'm all about making people feel seen, and I felt like setting boundaries would be hurting the people I love but Lena helped me realize it's actually empowering them.
I wouldn't have been able to see that without Lena and her support."
Destiny
"Lena, I want to thank you from the absolute depth of my soul for teaching me how to communicate better with myself, with other people, how to approach things that matter to me, how to have conversations that are hard...
I am endlessly grateful for you and my life would not look the way it does today if it wasn't for you."
Danielle
"If you are looking for someone who can help you navigate the uncomfortable conversations and situations in your relationships, Lena is your go-to.
Her knowledge and peaceful approach was eye opening and easy to apply...
It has made a huge impact on the relationships that are the most important to me."
DEVON
