I'd made it. By my mid-twenties I'd become a Director-level executive at a nonprofit and was elected Chairperson of a county Commission by 14 women - half of whom were twice my age.
But I'd hop out of the zoom room, exit my office, and find myself still playing small. My family, friends, even boyfriend (now husband) didn't see me as the woman impacting millions of lives daily. And I didn't yet know how to get them to see my depth, wisdom, and power. And then I learned...
Times I moved away to just escape the life I created? Twice.
Disrespectful relationships I put up with? More than a few...
Moments I avoided saying what's on my mind because I was too scared to upset someone? Um... 7 Million?
Growing up I was unaware I was a chronic people-pleaser.
And when I became aware, I thought the answer was to swing in the other direction: Big career swings, fancy titles, control.
But no matter how respected I was for my leadership... I was still shrinking and minimizing myself in my most important relationships... and I felt invisible... and it felt lonely as fck.
As visionaries, we need to take full accountability for fulfilling our purpose and enriching the world with our unique perspective. Your power to change the world is bigger than your career. It's a 24/7 never-ending calling to share your wisdom with the world... even if your family and friends aren't in the habit of fully seeing it, quite yet.
When you soothe feelings, you become a bandaid. When you ignore feelings, you become disconnected from your own power. When you mirror opportunities for meaningful growth, you become even more of a leader and truly serve the people in your presence.
This is why I gave up all the fancy titles and perfectly laid out future I had (even when my friends and family thought it was completely nuts and some called it careless, stupid, even selfish), to help sensitive high-achievers with big visions to step into their power and fully own your capacity to lead every relationship in your life - whether it's with you man, your mom, your team members... or yourself.
Days I wake up grateful to spend my life with my husband? 100%.
Disrespectful relationships I put up with now? Absolutely zero.
Moments I say what's on my mind and shock someone a little, but then get them on the same team as me? More than you'd think.
More importantly, I get messages almost every day from women all around the world telling me how I'm changing their lives - that their family members, boyfriends, best friends are growing alongside with them and giving then the respect they deserve for the first time in years. That they're no longer scared to be a devoted wife, mama, daughter because they know they can do it on their terms. I feel so, so lucky and grateful to live this life.
"Lena's coaching is truly remarkable.
Lena has been instrumental in helping me carve out meaningful time for self-care and personal growth. With her unwavering support, I've embraced a more holistic way of living, building confidence and evolving into a more fulfilled individual."
"I was able to have revelations that I didn't even have in the past TEN YEARS that I've been doing personal development and working on my mindset. I'm so excited for the future now because of the tools that Lena gave me. I highly recommend working with Lena!"
"I'm all about making sure the people in my life feel understood and seen and loved, and I thought setting unapologetic boundaries would be hurting them BUT it's actually empowering them - and I wouldn't have been able to see that without Lena and her coaching."
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